Take on the Empty Nest with a Renewed Sense of Passion in 2024
#LikeaBoss
I feel the best way to “empty nest” is “like a boss“, wouldn’t you agree? I know it is an older saying, but it still resonates in my head when I am pumping myself up for this stage of life. Let’s start with some examples of how to empty nest like a boss – or kind of, anyhow!
Negative Examples of How to Empty Nest Like A Boss
Rap artist Slim Thug recorded a track in 2005 called “Like a Boss.” In a call-and-response style, the song listed things he would do throughout his day, like a boss. This is NOT A GOOD EXAMPLE.
In 2009, comedian Andy Samberg and The Lonely Island parodied their version of the song and debuted it on SNL. He begins the song with the following:
“Talk to corporate (like a boss)
Approve memos (like a boss)
Lead a workshop (like a boss)
Remember birthdays (like a boss)
Direct workflow (like a boss)
My own bathroom (like a boss)
Micromanage (like a boss)
Promote Synergy (like a boss)”
And then, the song quickly goes downhill. The whole point is to say that these things do not bring fulfillment – or just to be funny, one or the other.
Then, there was a movie released in 2020 called “Like a Boss”. It was a comedy featuring Tiffany Haddish, Rose Byrne, and Salma Hayek. It fell short in the box office but had a few funny moments.
My Meaning of “Like a Boss”
Okay, let’s get the Simply Sunni take on this empty-nest-like-a-boss concept. Here we go.
In the olden days, the phrase became popular with kids and adults alike. My kids yelled it to me from down the hall all the time. But that was a long time ago, not to age myself!
I have made a list of ways to keep positive, like reaching out, getting busy, reviving romance, serving others, and self-care. My goal is to help as many as I can enter into this next phase in life without the depression so often accompanying the empty nest. Empty nest syndrome is a real concept that can creep up on anyone. With my current writing career, I hope I can shed some light on small business, career building, and empty nesting at the same time.
Roll all these rambling thoughts together, and this is what I get. Let me know what you think.
Reach Out – Like a Boss
The first concept to realize is you are not alone. There are so many parents entering and thriving in the empty nest phase. Staying in touch with others with similar lifestyles will encourage you to get out and be active in the community.
Reaching out to your extended family members can be another blessing. For years, I didn’t have the time to pay as much attention to my siblings and their kids. Now, I am making it a point to attend all their birthday parties and life events. That is the beauty of this time!
Reaching out to your kids is a tricky one. Most want you to reach out occasionally to let them know how you are, what is happening with the family, and when they are “expected” home next. However, smothering and giving unwanted advice should be avoided at all costs. This is what you spent all those years preparing them for; let them sink or swim. As long as you are kept informed, they will let you know if they need help.
That said, I have been told I do not reach out enough these days. You see, there is a delicate balance I have yet to attain. And even though I am in the second half of my life, I am still learning and growing. Be patient with yourself and apply grace where needed. It is not easy, but learning to apply the right amount of attention to each personality in your family portfolio can be tricky, but the important part to to do your best and keep trying!
In this era of empty nesting, you’re not just an “empty nester,” you’re a connector and community builder. Remember, it’s about quality over quantity. Quality conversations with your adult children, quality time with siblings, and quality interactions with friends can transform your empty nest into a whole heart.
Get Busy – Like a Boss
The temptation to binge-watch shows and catch up on social media is real; am I right? My best advice is to allow some leisure time, but then get busy! Active lifestyles are so popular these days you will be in fashion. Joining groups and clubs can be a fun way to use the time you never thought you would have. Renew your mind with a book club. Join a wine club to learn all about the different wines and vineyards of the world. Gain creativity with a craft gathering. Enjoy a new level of fitness with a walking or biking group. Join a new church or bible study to renew your spirit.
The best thing I did to get active was to really dive into master classes and short courses. My daughter Kelsie gave me this idea. Some of the classes I took were fun, some challenging, and some were just blah – to me. But then, one really stuck, and I began to absorb all I could on the subject, and I have been hungry for more ever since.
Whatever hobbies, passions, and challenging activities may attract you, take a leap of faith and get busy… like a boss.
Embrace this empty nesting phase as an opportunity to rediscover yourself. Whether reviving old passions or exploring new ones, this is your time to shine. From book clubs to fitness groups, every activity is a step towards mastering the art of empty nesting like a boss.
Revive Romance – Like a Boss
Quite possibly, the most rewarding activity is the renewal of romance in the empty nest. Here are some ideas, besides the obvious, to spark creativity in your relationship.
- Take dance lessons.
- Go for long walks or bike rides.
- Make a travel plan.
- Learn new games.
- Reinstitute Date Night and get dressed up!
- Introduce each other to something new to try.
- Explore nature and get outside more.
There are so many ideas; use your imagination and research. The internet is booming with suggestions just waiting for you to jump on.
In the journey of empty nesting, rekindling romance isn’t just about filling time; it’s about filling your life with shared moments of joy and discovery. It’s time to fall in love all over again, exploring new dimensions of your relationship in this exciting phase.
Serve Others – Like A Boss
When focused on others, we tend not to think about ourselves as much. Community service is a fantastic way to bless someone else as you give to yourself. The list of volunteer jobs is extensive and easily accessible. You know what they are: food banks, soup kitchens, churches, crisis centers, beach and park clean-ups, animal shelters, etc. “Give, and it will come back to you.”
Your empty nest is a launchpad for generosity and altruism. Serving others isn’t just a noble act; it’s a powerful way to bring purpose and passion into your life as an empty nester. It’s about making a difference, one act of kindness at a time… like a boss.
Self Care – Like a Boss
If you are anything like me, I put myself on the back burner for too many years. Being behind on medical, dental, mental, and spiritual care does no one any good. I can see that clearly now, where I could not when the kids’Â needs were so overwhelming. Take time now to get on a regular schedule of care for you and for those you love. Not only doctor appointments but also scheduling time for vacations and rest are essential to your mental health. Get out the old calendar and look at the year’s schedule to avoid putting it off.
Now, I warn you. You adult children may think, “what in the world do you have to do all day” and “why do you always seem so busy”? But catching up on lost time to care for yourself takes time, unfortunately. And then there is the whole aging thing – yuck. I propose we age like a boss and get healthy, happy, and whole – even if the kids do not understand. This way, you will be around longer to be there for them and your grandkids! That is the goal!
As an empty nester, prioritizing self-care is not just essential; it’s non-negotiable. It’s about nurturing yourself holistically – physically, mentally, and spiritually. This is the time to thrive, not just survive, in your empty nesting journey.
Again, Like A Boss!
Self-care, serving others, reviving romance, reaching out, and getting busy are all great ways to create new habits and renew old connections. However, if along the journey you don’t stay positive, none of them will work. My suggestion here is to practice gratitude daily, journal, and laugh, laugh, and laugh some more. The empty nest will soon transition into the comfy nest or whatever you make it! Remember, it’s your time now; make it all you want it to be!
-Simply Sunni
FAQ Section
- What are some emotional challenges of empty nesting, and how can I cope with them? Answer: It’s normal to experience various emotions, from sadness to excitement. Coping strategies include staying connected with your family, friends, and children, finding new hobbies, and seeking support from other empty nesters.
- How can I maintain a good relationship with my adult children? Answer: Respect their independence, communicate openly, and find a balance between staying involved and giving them space. It is a challenge, but just keep trying.
- What activities can I pursue now that I’m an empty nester? Answer: Consider activities like learning new skills, joining a club, volunteering, traveling, or starting a new hobby. This is a time to explore interests you may have put on hold.
- How can empty nesting affect my relationship with my partner? Answer: It can be a time for renewed romance and discovering new shared interests. Embrace it as an opportunity to strengthen your bond.
- Any tips for dealing with the ’empty’ feeling in the house? Answer: Redecorate or repurpose your child’s room, adopt a pet (thus, my Papillon), or create a new routine to bring fresh energy to your home. Time to do you!
